“Once you believe you are strong emotionally, you will unconsciously act stronger than before and begin to take control over your emotional whims” – Senora Roy
Each and every one of us has a very different and unique story in life. There have been billions upon billions of people who talked on earth, but no two stories are exactly the same. The experiences we gained, the things that we have been through has made us who we are. If your life’s story has more sad moments than the happy ones, now it’s time to change that.
We all possess the power to build the life that we always dreamed of. One of the very important skills that will help us reach our full potential is “our emotional strength”. The good news is, emotional strength is something similar to a body muscle. The more we use it in the correct pattern, the stronger it will become.
In this article, you’ll learn how emotionally strong people do things differently. If you can relate the below traits to yourself, then you are an emotionally strong person. If you can’t, then this is your opportunity to make some amends and start creating the existence you’ve always imagined for yourself.
1. They don’t have a problem saying no
Emotionally strong people never let others influence them into doing something they don’t want to do. They will not commit themselves or make false promises on things that they do not consider important. They simply say no to requests which they don’t want to do or don’t have time for.
2. They are less discouraged by setbacks and disappointments
Setbacks and disappointments are results of over expectations. Most of the people living in our society expects things to be rewarded right away. Emotionally weak people assume that their hard work will pay off in a very little period of time. When things does not go as planned, they break down emotionally.
Emotionally tough people understand that everything they need will come to them at the right time. By letting go of expectations and working towards a set goal, you can train yourself to become an emotionally strong person.
3. They do not waste energy on things that are out of their control
“Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it – Charles Swindoll”
Emotionally weak people regularly get angry at other people’s actions or things what other people say. They often overreact to things that really do not matter.
Emotionally strong people understand that what others say and do are out of their control. They will take a deep breath and tell themselves that it’s not worth to get stressed over what cannot be changed. They will take in the positive criticism for their own development and ignore the rest.
4. They ask for help
Most of the great people such as Einstein and Edison who changed the world had entire teams supporting them to succeed.
Emotionally strong people understand that success cannot be reached all alone. It requires a stable mind to swallow the pride and ask for help.
5. They do not seek attention
Emotionally strong people have the ability to fight their insecurities and manage their own emotions. These people are emotionally independent and have a higher level of confidence, hence do not rely on other people’s attention and recognition.
Emotionally strong people also understand their self-worth and do not necessarily worry about whether others value them or not.
6. They don’t mind working a little harder than everyone else
“The heights by great men reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight, but they, while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night”– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
While emotionally weak people look to stay inside their comfort zone, emotionally strong people will always seek more challenges to push their own limits.
7. They do not act on impulse
Impulsive decisions stem simply from getting caught up in what we want right now without thinking ahead. We can all agree that life is better when it isn’t filled with regret about decisions that we can’t take back.
Emotionally strong people actively make choices to avoid impulsive decisions which result in living a happier and more productive life. They choose to respond mindfully by looking at the different perspectives of every situation.
I am a Business Management graduate from the University Of Staffordshire (UK) and a qualified personnel officer who completed the National Diploma of Training and Human Resource development at Institute of Personnel Management (Sri-Lanka).
Apart from my professional career in the field of HRM, I am also a freelance writer of web and business contents.