Lindsay is the first to confess that she gets exposed on Instagram a great deal and as she says, “when you have a body as impressive as mine, it’s yours.”
An impressive body as described by Lindsay is a body that’s connected to a human being
Two years back Lindsay was checking her appearance and she saw a mother figure glancing back at her, she felt as she says, “defenseless as fuck”. She has spent most of two decades battling with a dietary problem, body dysmorphia, and never-ending hate to herself.
Lindsay at that point increased 75 pounds after having her two kids, and similarly, as with all pregnancy’s her body changed. Regardless of what she did to change her body the body remained the same, first, she got pissed off at that point felt double-crossed.
So Lindsay chose to accept her excellent body just as it might have been, and with this opportunity of thought, she saw it feels great as a glad, fat mom, her words.
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Imagine what kind of a world we’d have if we all became our own best friends. Self-love is really as simple as taking the step to challenge the outside forces that have been working to diminish your inherent worth & lovability. We aren’t born hating ourselves. We are conditioned into it. Which means it can all be undone. WE can choose, at any given moment, what we want to believe about ourselves, how we want to think about & talk to ourselves, and how we want to treat our bodies. I can easily say that every step I’ve taken towards bodily acceptance these past two years has resulted in the realization that I really can heal any part of me that feels broken. Of course, the ongoing efforts of going to therapy & being open to medication have personally helped me get there – and this may not be the path for everybody. But every one of us deserves the opportunity to love ourselves at some point during this lifetime. So many of us are taught as children that to be loved, we must do or be something outside of our natural self. And so the undoing process as an adult requires our willingness to unearth who that natural self IS. For me, stepping off of the diet culture roller coaster, owning my complex PTSD diagnosis, and learning how to let go of perfectionism & people pleasing tendencies has freed up space to dig deeper and get to know the me that exists when societal pressures are stripped away. And as scary as it can be to blindly trust a new way of existing, it has been so worth it to take the leap. ? . . . #youareworthy #selflove #bodyacceptance #allbodiesaregoodbodies #effyourbeautystandards #innerworth #plussize #EDrecovery #motherhood #fatisnotaviolation #reparentingyourself #mentalhealthawareness #stretchmarks #postpartumbody #youareenough #healthateverysize #shameresilience #traumarecovery #mombod
She flipped the thoughts to change the food routine and began showing off her excellent body on Instagram to promote accepting any type of body.
She has no intention to stop with the thing as she calls them “shenanigans” she points her finger to her husband as he is the reason why she stopped her fitness programs and that’s why today you see her big ass on Instagram.
A couple of years ago Lindsay’s hubby Matt revealed to her that he cherishes and acknowledges her looks and that he notices her progressively getting near the size she is present, Brave man, no, only a genuine one.
Matt had taken to tapping her bigger tush and giving her the goo-goo eyes that made her suspicious from the outset, she thought he was humiliating her and her weight. The reality of the situation was that he loved her, simply the manner in which she was and she found what he was accepting her in a completely honest way. Matt also has put on weight since they initially met and as Lindsay says, “I’m delighted in having a greater amount of him to cherish”. in the beginning, She struggled with dealing those positive emotions towards herself, and as she says; “please, you can’t blame me for straightforwardly showing off his additional cushions while evading my own.
The pictures of father bodies are everywhere throughout the web and the chubby boy has now started getting the lady in the film industry nowadays.
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This is your ONE life. How will you live it? Will you spend your days apologizing for your existence? Will you excuse away others’ abusive behaviors? Will you minimize your needs & desires for those who seek to only take? Will you crumble into a version of you that doesn’t feel authentic? Or will you wake up to the truth that your space in this world is AS EQUALLY DESERVED as any other human being? Please remember that we all came from the same Source. And we will all pass on & transform into something else. For this single, great moment in time, you have a chance to claim your spot. To tell your story. To hold your head up high enough to see the beautiful sky above & the vulnerably felt world below. You have an opportunity to love yourself into continued existence. This is your chance. Will you take it? I sure hope you do. And I’m so glad you’re here. ? . . . #mentalhealth #PTSD #complexPTSD #recovery #healing #childhoodtrauma #selflove #bodyacceptance #effyourbeautystandards #reparentingyourself #youareworthy #selflove #motherhood #innerworth #suicideprevention #youmatter
A man being chubby, while as yet getting defamed, isn’t taken seriously with so much judgment as a lady existing in a fat body.
What is miserable is that even now men like Matt are common, which is an obsolete and shallow view, when you love somebody without a doubt you love them over a period regardless of their size.
Lindsay says that she has had a number of moms connect with her on Instagram revealing to her that while they have acknowledged and grasped the changes in their bodies since having babies is a responsibility. Some became sad when they stated that their husband declining to engage in sexual relations with them due to their new size.
Great lol! they should hang their heads in disgrace!
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This guy & I have been away from each other for over a month. The reason why is as heartbreaking as it is life-affirming. We made a tough decision back in April after struggling for the first few months of the year. We decided to pack me & the kids up to fly to the East Coast to stay with my family, so I could get extra support for the increasingly overwhelming task of caring full-time for two kids under the age of four, while also working tirelessly to heal from an unexpected PTSD diagnosis. It’ll be another six weeks before my husband & I are reunited again, and then we’re embarking on a new chapter together in the hopes of creating less stress & more connection as a family unit. My therapist said something to me in one of our final in-person sessions together that was startling and surprisingly comforting. She said that when a parent enters counseling & shares that they have no extended family located closely near them, she writes it down as a substantial cause for concern. Add to that the host of recent symptoms that have accompanied my PTSD – crippling panic attacks, regular bouts of intense shame, fear & overwhelm, suicidal thoughts, and the potential reemergence of long-practiced self-harm tactics – and you have a recipe for mental health disaster. I can’t say that I’m out of the woods yet with everything – far from it – but I can say, with full certainty, that this decision to upend our tough status quo has led to feeling hope more often than not. While I currently see myself as the biggest work-in-progress I’ve ever been so far in my life, I do trust that these steps will lead to a much more empowering & encouraging rest of 2019. ❤️ If you are struggling as a parent with any kind of mental health battles, they are as worthy of a crisis status as any physical illness. Let’s start reminding ourselves that there’s a reason the saying “it takes a village” was coined. And if your village is far away & their presence hardly felt, you have every right to do whatever you can to stick your oxygen mask on first before you care for your tiny humans. ? . . . #mentalhealthawareness #PTSDrecovery #childhoodtrauma #youarenotalone #selflove #counseling #innerworth
So Lindsay suggested some discussions for every one of the men that pull this ridiculous thing on their wives.
Why has it become acceptable to only find your wife attractive while she is working hard to maintain the same figure throughout your marriage?
How can you even look at your partner with anything other than awe at what her phenomenal, superhero bod did when she birthed your children?
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Here’s what romance currently looks like in our multi-kid house. While it’s not expressed regularly in fancy dinners out, love letters, or grand gestures, it is often found sweetly in the tiniest of moments – and if I blink, I usually miss them. So here’s a recount. Romance nowadays is my husband making my first cup of coffee almost every single morning, just the way I like it. It’s sneaking in heavy petting in between the diaper changes & the temper tantrums. It’s laughing together at the end of what feels like the longest day of all time – and then doing it all over again the next day. It’s when he squeezes my arm as he passes by me in the kitchen as we follow our crazy toddler around. It’s watching him carry his newborn son with such tenderness as he sets his little body down to change a Level 10 baby poop blowout. It’s in how much he loves to cook me dinners while I’m passed the EFFF out on the couch at 9pm & the excited look on his face when he’s woken me up to eat it. It’s in every single pep talk he gives me to remind me that while this is the toughest job I’ve ever – EVER – taken on, he thinks I’m phenomenal at it. It’s the ease he has to let the house get messy without an ounce of pressure to immediately clean it up. It’s the little smirk he has on his face when I start babbling about my day to him as soon as he gets home from work. It’s how he gently holds me during the tearful moments when I don’t think I can do this mom thing any longer. It’s how much he has grown as a man & a dad & a person since the day I met him. And it’s the realization that I’d rather be in this parenting mess with him than any other human being on the planet. ?? . . . #parenthood #marriage #myfamily #raisingkids #tiredparents #thisispostpartum #makingafamily
And why are you all have become dumb to think that you can’t teach your man brains to lust for your wifey bears at any size?
The mental damage done to a woman who is being told she is no longer desirable after feeding and raising a child is very unfortunate. Your woman has gone through so many changes to bring a child into the world, so to say that she is no longer physically attractive is very unfair, and being body-shamed is the lowest of the low.
Ladies’ bodies are intended to advance, we will change shape, create stretch stripes, our boobs hang so does our butt, that doesn’t make us unfortunate to the correct men, who watch us give birth and raise their own children, all while attempting to keep a relationship together.
Ladies are more than their bodies and in the event that you are with such a person who can’t see that, at that point now is the right time, where they should discover that their view is shallow and obsolete.
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I wanna let you in on a lil secret – if you play Lizzo’s “Juice” on repeat for long enough, you WILL fall in love with your reflection. ?? (TY @lizzobeeating!!!) Seriously though – self-love is so much closer than you think. Society & limiting beliefs & negative conditioning have all been in charge for wayyy too long. ⭐️ YOU get to be in charge now. ⭐️ No matter how you feel about yourself, I encourage you to get the cute flowers for your place, pick out the jeans that feel good (regardless of the size!), listen to the songs that pump you up, and just keeeep telling yourself that you deserve all the hugs & kisses & compliments & LOVE in the world even if you have to fake it til you make it. And one day – maybe sooner than you think! – you just might believe it. (And at the very least – chew on this: you have been worthy of love this entire time. Since the beginning. And forever and ever and ever more. And no one – and I mean, NO ONE – can ever take that worth away from you.) ?? . . . #youareworthy #selflove #bodyacceptance #allbodiesaregoodbodies #effyourbeautystandards #innerworth #plussize #EDrecovery #motherhood #fatisnotaviolation #stretchmarks #postpartumbody #youareenough #healthateverysize #shameresilience
Ladies regardless of their size and shape are delightful, solid and commanding ladies, they have the right to be cherished and loved.
As Lindsay says, “And in the event that you ever need any wordings or motivational speeches to assist you with hearing how outstanding you are, come and meet me”.
Simply this lady is my savior!!!