Getting to go out on your own is part of growing up, but If you have strict parents, you may not get to go out as much as you would like. Are you a person who is in your late teens or twenties? Are you still bother about your parents’ permission? So if you are dealing with a similar situation like this, then you would possibly think that you have overprotective parents. So you also have might felt that their over concern has affected you in a bad way or their excessive attention might be disturbing your own space. However, in recent research, it has revealed that if your parents are like over concerning, then you are one of the luckiest kids.
This was led by author Amber J. Seidel, Ph.D., of Penn State York in Pennsylvania. She said that she got involved in this study as she has faith in family relationships.
“I feel that many share this value, yet I think much of the socialization in our culture focuses on the family when children are younger. I seek to study topics that help us understand how family continues to be a central part of our lives throughout adulthood, and I encourage considering family-level influences in all situations”. she said to BBC
The team who was doing the research has inspected 186 heterosexual married couples who were in their late 50’s and had average 2-3 grown-up children for the experimentation.
In this experiment, parents were asked to rate on a scale of 1 to 8 as of how they offer different types of support to their adult children. 1 means daily they support their children and 8 means no more than once a year. Financial assistance, emotional support, pieces of advice and discussions were the types of support they ranged.
Most of the parents become stressful when it comes to their kids. So these parents also rated how worrying they find it to support their grown-up children and how much they concern about these kids from a scale of 1-5. In here 1 being ‘not at all’ and 5 being ‘a great deal’.
As per the research findings, wives reported sleeping 6.66 hours per night and the husbands slept about 6.69 hours. When parents were asked the amount of sleep they got each night.
As per the results, for husbands, the support that they provided their grown children was associated with poorer sleep; conversely, the husbands slept more when their wives reported providing support for the kids. No such impact was seen in the women’s sleep.
Women sleep has been affected negatively because of their kids. Stress levels over this issue did not appear to affect how much the husbands slept.
It was revealed that the giving of support itself affected the men while stress over the support was what affected the women. Seidel says that the results can be an effect of how involved many parents are with their grown children’s lives.
As per the findings, it was shown that giving of support itself affected the men, while stress over the support was what affected the women.
Seidel stated that the outcomes can be an effect of how involved many parents are with their adult children’s lives.
“Current research on young adults suggests that parents and children are maintaining high levels of involvement. Although parents and adult children have always maintained some level of involvement, we do see an increase in what is often termed ‘helicopter parenting’ and ‘landing pad’ children”
Furthermore, Seidel said that development of technology such as mobile phones and social media sites gives parents a broad vision. so they can check what is happening in their children lives. This also helps parents to increase the concern for their children even more.
As parents are dealing with a lot of stress, they are advised to practice strategies like exercise or therapy.
“it is important to remember that having stress present in our lives is not the problem. It’s the inability to cope in healthy ways with the tress that is problematic and may lead to immune suppression”.
Parents also have to understand the level of involvement that they are giving towards children. As an example, how their child is receiving it, whether the parents are controlling the children or actually be supportive. Seidel suggested.
However, if you feel like your parents are involved in your life and if they care about you too much, you need to understand that you are part of them, they “made” you. It is a basic instinct. They are designed to do so. Each child is a part of the parent.
I am a Business Management graduate from the University Of Staffordshire (UK) and a qualified personnel officer who completed the National Diploma of Training and Human Resource development at Institute of Personnel Management (Sri-Lanka).
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