Though I have not faced a situation which caused me to take my own life, unfortunately I have experienced such situations where people self-destruct due to various reasons. I have seen a number of people left behind by the suicide of people who are close to them. Pain with guilt, anger, and depression and regret are all reasons that compel people to take their own lives. A person’s loss will often make the loved ones suffer with surprise and make them look for a reason for the question “WHY?” throughout their entire life.
In general, people try to kill themselves for six reasons:
1. Dissapointed Talk
Talking about taking their lives may suggest that they are planning on destructing. This may be a cry for help.These people aren’t really in a need to die but do want to alert the people around them that something is seriously wrong. Rather than taking their lives, The victim often might want to strike out at the person who has made him/her suffer by choosing methods they’d not believe would not bring death to them.
2. Lack of sleep
They’re depressed. A reckless behaviour can be seen in the victim.Sometimes the sleeping patterns can become off. This can be due to stress and restless thoughts. If someone is tired more often, or cannot fall asleep at night, talk to them. See if they are stressed out, try to help. As depression can be cured, we need to recognize its presence in our close friends and loved ones. People suffer with it silently and plan on committing suicide without letting others realize .
3. Looses interest in the things they love
The things once they loved to do can be no longer interesting or enthusiastic. The motivation they had in their hobbies can vanish. It can make them feel lost.
4. Changes in personality and behaviour
The person who makes arrangements to take his/her life might show a change in attitude or behavior, and also in motion such as speaking or moving with unusual speed. Moreover, this person might suddenly become less concerned about his/her appearance. Dangerous behaviors, such as careless driving and use of drugs and/or alcohol indicate that the person no longer values his or her life.
5. Recent trauma
Trauma refers to an overwhelming experience that is extremely painful, It can be physical or emotional. A major loss in life such as death of a loved one,a breakup of a relationship,financial problems might trigger an attempt of destruction. A sudden shock of a severe loss can create fear, anxiety or anger in a person’s life.
6. Unexpected calmness
Severe and long-lasting sadness and mood swings can be symptoms of a depressed person,this person can show sudden calmness after a period of depression.This can be a sign to show that the person has made a decision to end his/her life.
Self destruction can be eradicated. The best way to prevent this is to know the risk factors, be alert to the signs, recognize the warning signs,and intervene before the person destruct himself.Encourage the person to seek professional help.Don’t ever leave the person alone. If possible, ask for help from friends or other family members.Try to keep the person as calm as possible.
Passed out from the National College Of Education Sri Lanka, Shalinka is currently working as an English And English Literature and a visiting lecturer. Her interest in writing has lead her to work as a freelance content writer as well.